The Dare to Be Love Journey

We all want to be seen, accepted and loved. Yet, without seeing, accepting and loving ourselves we can’t be fully present to allow others to see, accept and love us.

From the early philosophers and theologians advising us to “Know Thyself” to the most current self-help, psychological, mystical and spiritual teachings advocating a journey of Self-Love, the fundamental questions are always the same:

Who am I?
Why am I here?
What purpose do I serve as a human being with the life I have?

The Dare to Be Love Journey addresses this foundational questioning and helps you to access your Inner Wisdom allowing you to live a conscious life, opening you to a life of Joy.

You might ask why I proposed the journey of awakening as a “Dare to Be Love” journey and my answer is simple:

One needs the courage of daring to ask yourself to live with love and kindness in all you believe, think, say and do.
One needs the power of love to reboot your Spirit, awakening your body, mind and soul, freeing you from the fears and limitations of your Human Beliefs opening you to a Life of Joy!

So are you feeling courageous enough to Dare to Be Love?

The art of developing a fully integrated way of living in the world is a journey towards Self-mastery and a journey towards wisdom that your Spirit and Soul will carry beyond the Mind and Body of this life.

Do you have the courage to WAKE UP to yourself and see how your individual beliefs, thoughts, behaviors and spoken words affect you and those around you?

What does this ask of you?

As the journey unfolds, I’d like to take you through a guided step-by-step process to help you (re) connect with your entire being of Spirit, soul, mind and body, a process leading to self-acceptance, self-love and the joy of the present moment being perfect.

On this daring journey, you’ll cultivate self-awareness by building a connection with, and aligning your internal being (beliefs and thoughts) and external being (behaviors and spoken words). This will allow you to begin to live in and reflect out your True Self.

As you make your way through the courageous process of identifying your stories of shame, guilt and/or blame, that you are attached to, you’ll begin to access your courage to change your relationship with these stories. This will help you step out from behind the fear of these stories and live the life you want, in your full individual expression.

What will you learn?

Step 1 – How to SEE Yourself

Many of us are unaware that everything in life is a choice. If you listen deeply, you will often hear yourself choosing to say, “I can’t because…”, “If only…” or “I wish…” These thoughts of fear or regret are attached to your stories of blame, guilt and shame and cause you suffering. But you can choose to change this as you acknowledge that your attitude of choice is your most powerful gift.
Your choices are informed by your beliefs and your beliefs impact your thoughts, behaviors and spoken words. Changing or shifting a limiting belief is challenging as they are mostly developed in your formative years by your societal and parental narratives.
Being able to SEE yourself clearly, means having the courage to question and examine your beliefs so you begin to unravel the stories you have created about yourself and life and what you have made them mean.
Changing or shifting your limiting beliefs so that you can lose your attachment to your stories, will show you how your limiting beliefs are not real, they are simply a choice held in the mind, keeping you attached to unhealthy emotions and your stories of blame, guilt and shame.

Step 2 – How to ACCEPT Yourself

While change is undoubtedly hard, you also need to find the capacity to accept what you can control and what you can’t control.
Changing your relationship with your stories doesn’t mean that you should forget or deny them. Many of you have suffered because of something sad or tragic happening to you. This is part of your human journey.
But what is also part of your human journey is integrating these painful events into your life in a way that serves you, free from the pain and your stories of blame, shame or guilt. As the old sages say, “the only way to transcend pain is to acknowledge that you experienced it.”
You can only “let go” of the attachment once you have dealt with the emotions that underlie your stories. In short “Pain suppressed is pain depressed.” Being able to fully ACCEPT yourself means transcending and taking the courageous journey with “Pain felt is pain dealt,” as you can’t heal what you can’t feel.
By fully accepting yourself and all the events that have happened in your life, you will find courage to identify and control your relationship with your thoughts, as opposed to your thoughts driving you subconsciously. Your thoughts are embodied, and the old sages agree, “Your worst enemy cannot harm you as much as your own unguarded thoughts.” To change negative thoughts and habits that do not serve you, you will learn how to manage and feel your feelings in the face of all that is unknown. This will allow you to choose new ways of thinking once you can witness the thoughts that you do have and understand the unconscious relationship you have with them.

Step 3 – How to LOVE Yourself

Once you have made a move towards your required change, you will need to develop skills and discipline to keep you focused on the change.
Often, you are changing behavior that has been embedded for decades, so in truth you need to have patience, discipline, practice and momentum.
Being able to LOVE yourself means having courage to honor your choice of change while maintaining love and compassion for yourself as you are in the present moment, to embody these new behaviors with conviction.
In this process of developing love and trust for yourself and your choices, you will start to experience more joy in your daily living and in your journey towards self- mastery. Any potential resistance from yourself or others will be dealt with the compassion of assessment and observation, free from judgment or evaluation.

Step 4 – How to OPEN to Love and Compassion for All

Once you have learned to see, accept and love yourself, the art of being able to open to love and compassion for all is a relatively natural step that unfolds.
In fully identifying with the “individual Spirit / Self” of who you are, you will open to the fact that as a Spirit and soul you are no different to all others and see that all humans are traveling the same journey towards awakening. You will learn practices for mastering the art of assessment and observation for your day to day living alongside others, so that it becomes an embodied way of being LOVE.
Once opened to the Universal Wisdom that connects your Spirt and soul with all others, you will see that you can transcend the human differences of body and mind, as you open to love for all.
The wakening of desire to connect with the energy of Love / God / Universe (call it what you will), where all Spirts and souls flow into one becomes a desire that needs to be nurtured, without losing perspective of your day to day requirements while living as a Spirit in soul, body and mind that brings forth your individual truth in the world.

The Dare to Be Love Journey is a modern-day pilgrimage for those willing to question what they believe to be true.

Each Dare to Be Love Step will invite inner reflection and interesting exercises, helping you to cultivate an awareness of Self and an understanding of how your individual beliefs, thoughts, behaviors and spoken words affect you and those around you.

In this DARING process of questioning, you’ll discover new ways of bringing forth Love in all your thoughts, behaviors and spoken words with your individual beliefs to fully open to living with purpose and joy in an open connection with Self and all others.

So are you looking for change and feeling daring enough to step out from behind your fears?

Our fear is what holds us back and I’m going to be sharing with you how to allow fear to have its place, but not let it get in the way of undertaking these 20 easy-to-understand exercises.

FREE EXERCISES

I’m so excited to be sharing this journey with you!

Warm love and regards
Jacqui

Perfectly Imperfect Author and Speaker, Spiritual Revolutionary and Warrior of Self.

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Note: While I love attending various spiritual teachings in Churches, Temples, Synagogues, Universities and other institutions that don’t discriminate or judge the teachings of another, please note that my writings are non-denominational as I am of the belief that access to a spiritual life and a connection with God / Love/ Universe / Source / Universal Wisdom (call it what you will) is available to all and does not require a single or specific dogma. When I refer to or quote the work of any of the many great spiritual teachers, I do not advocate the teachings of one above the other; at the same time, I comfortably and openly have my favorites.

Dare to Be Love Exercises

Do you want to make a change in your life and open to more daily Joy?

These exercises are foundational to the Dare to Be Love Journey for change. Each of the 4 steps has a number of exercises associated with it. Follow them sequentially, as each set of exercises builds on the work accomplished in the previous steps. They require a steady application, but the rewards increase exponentially as you progress through each step.

Each exercise will require between 10 and 15 mins per day, 5 times a week or more if you wish. The entire sequence can be done in a period as short as 8 weeks, but the process is about opening you to a new way for the rest of your life, so if you want to slow it down, then take your time and savour each experience 2 weeks at a time.

While you will notice immediate change, you will see that through the practices, sustainable and rewarding change will be your prize and gift to yourself.

Try it and see for yourself!

Exercise 1

How to SEE Your Hidden Self:
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